Our fast-moving lives have really hurt our ability and desire to build deep relationships. We don't feel as connected to each other as we used to. Most of the time we know people at a very surface level and unfortunately many of us have grown used to these shallow relationships.
We can travel miles to church, sit there every Sunday or watch online, and never really get to know anyone in the church. If we go in person, after the service we hop right back into our car and drive 10 to 20 minutes back home, open our garage door, step into our house and never connect with anyone else. If we watch online, we seamlessly slide into our everyday life without reaching out or connecting.
Yet we were created for more, for deep, intentional and godly relationship. The Bible shows us that we were not made to be alone or to live our lives in shallow friendships. We were made for connection, deep connection.
In Genesis 2:18 God said about man, ‘it is not good for man to be alone,’ so God created a companion for Adam to have the deepest type of human relationship with. I know this verse is about a special relationship between a man and a woman, but I also believe that humans are created to have deep connection in our other relationships as well. God created us to connect. To share our lives with others, to love others and to encourage others. Each of us should have those friendships, relationships, that are deep and meaningful. Relationships that push us to become more and more like Christ. There should be people that we want to be active in our lives, that we enjoy and not only are challenged by, but that we also have fun with. People we can laugh and cry with. People who we can be real with and be ourselves around.
We all need people who are not afraid to be honest with us while also, are willing to walk with us even when it gets hard. People who we connect with in such a way that we know that our lives are better because we have connected.
One of my favorite verses in the Bible on connection is Hebrews 10:24-25.
“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”
We are called to meet together, to build one another up, to encourage and cheer each other on to love and to spur us on to good works. Yes, we are told not to neglect meeting together, (not to neglect to connect) but to do it more and more.
So our hope for each D-triangle is that they will become points of deep connections, deep friendship. Places where people feel at home to dive deep, and become the people God has called us to be.
Please slow down, dive in and connect, and see what God will do.